elfie_chan | Boot to the Head! Yah, yah!

Umm...yeah. That song has been stuck in my head since last night. My family and I listened to Dr. Demento on the radio, and Boot to the Head was number one on the Funny Five. It is a silly song.

The wedding is in five days. I'm incredibly excited (of course), even though we still have a few last-minute things to do. I went to see the lawyer on Friday about the prenuptual agreement again. She really irritated me, and I was trying to figure out why. I figured it out on Saturday. One of the things that the lawyer kept saying was, "Don't you want to protect your investment? What if you spend twenty years of your life with him and then he divorces you? Shouldn't you get something out of that?" Here's my take on that: What investment? I'm not bringing anything monetary to the marriage, really. All I'm investing is love and time. I'm going to get that love and time back as we go through our wedded life together. I don't want to take anything from him. If we got divorced (heaven forbid!), all I'd want would be my things and my half of whatever we made/bought together. I don't want him to "support me in the manner to which I have become accustomed." Screw that! I'm not marrying Alex to see what I can get out of him. I'm marrying him because I love him, and because he loves me. I'm marrying him because we want to spend our lives together. I don't think the lawyer understands that. Of course, she's also a divorce lawyer, so that may explain some of it.

I guess what I'm saying is that, ultimately, marriage is an investment of love. You don't go in expecting perfection. That would be silly, as we're all human. The love is what matters--that unconditional love. When people get married, they promise to love one another "till death do us part." That's a big promise. With a 50% divorce rate in this country, I don't think many people take that promise seriously anymore.

While I agree that divorces should happen for certain reasons (abuse, infidelity, etc.), I also believe that, if two people get married, they should be willing to work and fight for that marriage every step of the way. I am. I feel like Alex and I have talked about this and gotten to know each other to the point where we can be certain that the other person is the one we want to spend the rest of our lives with. (Confusing sentence, sorry.) We are both investing our love in this relationship. I think that's the most important thing.

In other news, I had a mocha yesterday to help me deal with the stress. As I have had next to no chocolate for a couple of months, that mocha was practically a religious experience. Mom said something yesterday that stuck in my mind: "Men like chocolate. Women have a relationship with chocolate." I think that's true. Alex doesn't understand why there are certain times (like when I'm under large amounts of stress) when I need chocolate, even if it's only one fun-size Three Musketeers bar. He seems to think it's just some sort of weird addiction. He's managed to pretty much get himself off chocolate, and he seems to think that I should be able to do the same. Sorry, nothing doing. Chocolate (particularly hot chocolate or a mocha) is a treat, a soothing draught when I'm distraught, a solace when I've had a hard day, an aid to conversation (sitting down with hot chocolate or a mocha and talking is great), and a medication for my (minor) sorrows. It's a drink for all occasions. I really don't have chocolate as often as I used to (for obvious reasons, i.e. fitting into my wedding dress), but there are still (rare) times that I REALLY need it. On a side note, Alex had a mocha when I had one. Heh. ^_^

On another note, HAPPY SAINT PATRICK'S DAY! I have many friends who believe that he was no saint, but I'm going to have to do more research before I decide for myself about that. I'm not wearing much green today...ah, well.

I should probably go. There are still many last-minute things to be done...sewing on hooks and eyes, miles of hems, finishing the program for the service and reception, making CDs for the music...and so on. Bai for now!