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Alex and I went to a wedding today—our last wedding of the year.
Weddings tend to make me think. Of course, my wedding made me babble incoherently, but that’s pretty normal. My brain was focusing on other things, like “Don’t lock your knees! You’ll faint, and then you’ll fall over and all your foofy underthings will show because your hoopskirts will hold up everything like a giant framework of silky doom!” You know, important stuff like that. But other people’s weddings make me think.
Today’s wedding was brought to us by Joe and Ashley, two very spiffy friends of ours. Alex and I have known them for at least as long as we’ve known each other. It was wonderful to watch them stand up together and declare their intention to love and cherish each other. Barry (the pastor) said some very cool things about how marriage should be—two people who love each other and sacrifice for each other. Marriage is a two-way street.
Barry’s words made me step back and examine my own marriage. Admittedly, we’ve only been married for a little over nine months now (nine months! We’re three months away from one year!), but I still looked back over those nine months in my mind, wondering, Am I a good wife? Have I been showing my love to Alex as much as I need to? He seems satisfied, but I made a promise to myself in my heart, repeating Joe and Ashley’s vows along with them and reaffirming the promise that I made to Alex nine months ago. I think it was an important thing to do. I love him with all my heart, and I want to make sure that he knows it.
Alex is the most wonderful husband in the world, and I hope that Joe and Ashley (and all the other people whose weddings we attended or heard about this year and the previous years, hello,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
haddassah and brightshadowsky!) have marriages that are as filled with wonder and love as mine is. Today’s wedding made me think about weddings in general—weddings are wonderful things, but it’s the marriage that is most important. It’s the little, everyday things that matter the most, tiny gestures that might go unnoticed, and yet are the most important of all. For instance, on our way back from San Francisco, we stayed at a hotel. We got a 6:00 am wake-up call, as our flight was leaving at 8:40. I don’t wake up very well, especially at that time of the morning. By the time I had blearily wiped the sleep out of my eyes and was sitting up in bed, Alex was there with my vitamins and a cup of hot tea. I cannot express how much I appreciated that. I wish I could think of something equally wonderful to do for him—maybe I’ll clean the house. Heh.
Our wedding was wonderful, but a lot of it was a blur for me. I imagine that Ashley and Joe felt the same way. However, as they go through life, they’ll have little moments like that, little gestures of affection, that will stick in their minds for years and years. I hope they have lots of them.
Okay, that was my thoughtful essay-thingy for today. Now, the Christmas Update.
First of all: For my friends who have not yet received their Christmas presents, they are coming shortly. We were, unfortunately, not able to deliver all of them before we had to go down to San Francisco on December 23.
Secondly: Lin, I got your Gaia prezzie...I chose the Angel Scarf. Thank you so much! Also, did everybody on Gaia get a Santa hat, or were those bought for people? I'm just wondering where mine came from! ^_^;;
( Click Here for the Rest of the Christmas Update! )
And that’s quite enough for tonight. I may post my thoughts on Christmas in general another time, when I feel like rambling. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays/Joyous Solstice to all, even if it’s a bit belated. I love you all!
Weddings tend to make me think. Of course, my wedding made me babble incoherently, but that’s pretty normal. My brain was focusing on other things, like “Don’t lock your knees! You’ll faint, and then you’ll fall over and all your foofy underthings will show because your hoopskirts will hold up everything like a giant framework of silky doom!” You know, important stuff like that. But other people’s weddings make me think.
Today’s wedding was brought to us by Joe and Ashley, two very spiffy friends of ours. Alex and I have known them for at least as long as we’ve known each other. It was wonderful to watch them stand up together and declare their intention to love and cherish each other. Barry (the pastor) said some very cool things about how marriage should be—two people who love each other and sacrifice for each other. Marriage is a two-way street.
Barry’s words made me step back and examine my own marriage. Admittedly, we’ve only been married for a little over nine months now (nine months! We’re three months away from one year!), but I still looked back over those nine months in my mind, wondering, Am I a good wife? Have I been showing my love to Alex as much as I need to? He seems satisfied, but I made a promise to myself in my heart, repeating Joe and Ashley’s vows along with them and reaffirming the promise that I made to Alex nine months ago. I think it was an important thing to do. I love him with all my heart, and I want to make sure that he knows it.
Alex is the most wonderful husband in the world, and I hope that Joe and Ashley (and all the other people whose weddings we attended or heard about this year and the previous years, hello,
haddassah and brightshadowsky!) have marriages that are as filled with wonder and love as mine is. Today’s wedding made me think about weddings in general—weddings are wonderful things, but it’s the marriage that is most important. It’s the little, everyday things that matter the most, tiny gestures that might go unnoticed, and yet are the most important of all. For instance, on our way back from San Francisco, we stayed at a hotel. We got a 6:00 am wake-up call, as our flight was leaving at 8:40. I don’t wake up very well, especially at that time of the morning. By the time I had blearily wiped the sleep out of my eyes and was sitting up in bed, Alex was there with my vitamins and a cup of hot tea. I cannot express how much I appreciated that. I wish I could think of something equally wonderful to do for him—maybe I’ll clean the house. Heh.Our wedding was wonderful, but a lot of it was a blur for me. I imagine that Ashley and Joe felt the same way. However, as they go through life, they’ll have little moments like that, little gestures of affection, that will stick in their minds for years and years. I hope they have lots of them.
Okay, that was my thoughtful essay-thingy for today. Now, the Christmas Update.
First of all: For my friends who have not yet received their Christmas presents, they are coming shortly. We were, unfortunately, not able to deliver all of them before we had to go down to San Francisco on December 23.
Secondly: Lin, I got your Gaia prezzie...I chose the Angel Scarf. Thank you so much! Also, did everybody on Gaia get a Santa hat, or were those bought for people? I'm just wondering where mine came from! ^_^;;
( Click Here for the Rest of the Christmas Update! )
And that’s quite enough for tonight. I may post my thoughts on Christmas in general another time, when I feel like rambling. Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays/Joyous Solstice to all, even if it’s a bit belated. I love you all!
